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    Contact photo? Why would you need a photo, it’s the name enough?

    That said, a girlfriend was mad at me once, when she noticed she was listed in my phone by her first and last name, same as everybody else.

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      My wife was mad when she realized she was “[FirstName] Tinder”, still.

      Now she’s “Wife #1”. Technically I think she likes that more?

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      Your comment is basically my BF! I was telling him, so I just look like any rando in your phone? And the default contact icon is yellow? Gross I don’t even like yellow! Like how hard is it to add a contact photo for me??🤣 I couldn’t understand what the big trouble was back then and thought it meant he didn’t care. But now I see that some people really just don’t do contact photos lol😆

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        He didn’t care about the contact photo/name, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you. We all show it in a different way.

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      Some time ago it was common advice (at least over here) to never save contacts as “Mom”, “Dad” or “GF” lest your phone gets stolen and the robbers instantly know who to try scamming first.
      This particular advice kinda died with everybody moving to smartphones and passcodes yet I never moved on. Everybody on my phone is just First Name. Last Name together if I need to disambiguate.
      Meanwhile there’s my friends where my contact is a random string of emojis and a 8 year old inside joke neither of us remember the meaning of, making it almost impossible to send myself something from their device lol. And they say I’m cold because their contacts are just “First Name” on my device lol.

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      Had a few years where I took a photo of or with a friend or partner while they’re as wasted as possible (obviously with their consent) and used those, it always made me laugh whenever I got a call from the ones I had done it with as I didn’t see that photo otherwise and had often forgotten about it.

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      That is partly why I don’t date, and why I don’t like dealing with people much in general.

      Everyone has so many of these stupid, made-up rules that they kinda just assume are universal because their social media algorithms make it seem that way.

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        Everyone has so many of these stupid, made-up rules

        Everyone does do they? You’ve got to get out more / at all.

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          Everyone does, its called unwritten social rules. Terrible for people of different cultural background or that are on “the spectrum” since many treat the rules as obvious, and only reason anyone would break them is to be rude

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    This but unironically. My wife’s profile picture is from around when we met, didn’t have kids yet, and she’s doing a silly face.

    Pretty sure vice versa my Pic is the donkey from Shrek…

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      Yeah, I also started dating my wife before cellphone cameras were good. So my profile picture of her is like a 50x50 pixel blurry-ass photo.

      In hindsight, a blurry ass-photo would’ve been nice too.

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    My wife’s contact photo is a candid of her absolutely demolishing some chocolate covered strawberries, while dressed in full cosplay. She’s in the middle of taking a massive bite, and has a look of absolute focus, like she’s eating these berries to save mankind.

    She hates it, and I absolutely refuse to change it because it makes me chuckle every single time she calls.

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    When they look the most human and relatable? When they look like you actually see them most of the time? Ya know, a picture of them and not a costume and face paint, posing for a scene from a movie that never existed? Yeah, what a crazy thing to do.

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    I know this is a stereotype, and doesn’t apply to all men or women, but I think it’s important. I think the woman thinks “if I’m important to you, you should represent me at my best”, which I could maybe see as a form of respect or something.

    But the dude is like “I don’t love you for your best, I love you at your silliest. This is a photo of you no one else has, and gives me the feeling of when we’re together. Anyone can use your LinkedIn headshot or some photo from Instagram of you posing over some drinks.”

    I’m not sure stereotypical women have noticed their guys while setting up an Instagram photo, but they’re not cherishing those moments 😛

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      My wife is hot as fuck, I have a hard time not attacking her every time I see her. Getting a hard-on every time I see her pic is already a problem, hence the silly pic of her as her contact.

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      If I don’t like someone’s silly pictures and find them attractive in those, then I wouldn’t be dating them in the first place.

      I stopped trusting those “good angles” when someone only had them on their tinder profile. If they didn’t include at least one pic showing a less than ideal angle, I assumed they were one of those skilled enough with makeup and photography that they could use their own pictures to catfish. Filters, too. Though these days, AI would also be in the mix.

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      Yeah… how can someone not realize this is literally the highest form of connection?

      “I’m so comfortable with you that you at your most real moments is so endearing to me that it is the way I choose to capture you because it gives me the nicest feelings.”

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    As a dude who uses a photo of my wife about to bite into a big turkey leg as my phone background, they’re the best photos to use. Nothing’s more fake than a photo of someone posing and putting on a fake smile, and we’re one of the few who get to see some of the real ones, like this one. We cherish that.

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    For a while, my wife’s contact photo my phone was a Fowler’s toad that we found. This upset her a lot.

    Now her pic is a gray treefrog we found on a leaf. She’s much happier as a frog.

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    I feel like doing your makeup before brushing your teeth doesn’t seem right to me for some reason 😭😭😭 cuz what if ur saliva ruins your mug? Ig that’s what waterproof makeup is for

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      It’s Sabrina Carpenter, so either the picture was staged for something specific or she already had her makeup done a while ago and is brushing her teeth for another reason (maybe finishing lunch?) and is gonna go back for touch-ups

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        Do some people not wash their face (or shower) first? My morning routine goes like this: Wake > poop > shower (wash face and brush teeth in shower) > deodorant + cologne > get dressed > skin care > hair care > skip breakfast > go to work. I guess some people go with a different order.

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          Yeah I’ll be honest, my routine is similar — but I also know I’ve seen my girlfriend put her makeup on the night before, touch it up in the morning and go.

          She also has very clear skin, it’s bullshit.

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    Funny you mentioned 6 years, that’s how long I was with a guy who never even added me as a contact into his phone. We lived together, slept together, were monogamous with each other, I helped him raise his daughter every other weekend during his custody time with her while he was at work. He still never added me as a contact into his phone.

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      Did he still call you?

      If so, I guess that just means you were important enough that he had your number memorized.

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        On modern phones once a call or text conversion begins, it remains. No need to memorize or anything, it’s just there and context of past conversations will suffice as the way to know who it is.

        (Edit: “Modern phones” good lord I’m a dinosaur. Sorry for the patronizing start.)

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        I don’t think he called me very often. I lived with him. I saw him every day & slept with him every night.

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      I had a roommate who never made a single contact in her phone for anyone, she would just answer any call and figured out who was texting from past bits of the conversation and what they sent. And it wasn’t a principled thing, she just didn’t see the convenience in saving contact info. Blew my fucking mind

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      What about other people he knew? Was it just you or was it pure laziness. I did not do this, but it’s an absolute struggle for me to add anyone new these days to the point that ill normally send that first text with the persons name in it so if they call i ignore it then cross reference the number after with my txt to see if its someone i know. You will never know the lengths some people will go to just because of laziness lol. If anything he probably knew your number by heart.

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        He didn’t have my number memorized, he just used his phone log and click on that to call me back. Or click on our texting history. A few years before I met him, his super hot blonde wife left him for another man so he was a bit distraught & having trouble moving forward.