What’s your take? Would you take seriously dating a single parent or would you do it just for temporal fun? Should people with kids date just people with kids?
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I wouldn’t date either of my parents.
That’s okay I’ll date your parents for you.
Hi dad/mom
Depends a lot. I guess the short answer would be yes, but as a single with no children I must admit it would initially make me feel uncertain.
Edit: thus is just my personal take. I believe it’s nobody’s business to say who should date who, each to their own.
Since I’m childfree, dating a single parent is a non-starter.
If I was not childfree, I think I would be open to it.
Of course, it’s much easier when they’re single.
I don’t want kids and I’m not interested in short term flings so I wouldn’t.
It’s not not wanting to “raise someone elses kid” but rather just not wanting kids period. I didn’t get snipped at 21 just to wind up with a kid anyways.
At the same time I wouldn’t be opossed to a hookup with someone because they are a single parrent if that’s all they were looking for as well. But I’m asexual so hookups just aren’t my thing period.
Nope! I don’t really like kids and don’t want them. Part of the reason why is I don’t think I’d be a very great parent. To reasonably date someone with a kid, there would need to be some level of commitment also towards the kid and I simply do not want that.
Single mom? Absolutely. Single dad? No. But thats mostly because I like women.
I don’t want kids of my own but I love kids! I would LOVE do date a guy with kids. Bonus points if he is a widow.
I currently am. We’re 3 years in to the relationship and her and her daughter have moved in.
We’re planning on getting married.
We didn’t plan this, we were friends before she got married but despite going on a date, neither of us caught the flirting of the other. She got deployed and then got married and had a child. We started talking again when she was going through her divorce and I was planning to move out of state. Neither of us wanted anything serious. She wanted to go through a bit of a slutty phase and just have fun, so we just started hooking up. And then we caught feelings for each other.
Every single day, I reflect just a bit and am amazed how happy they make me. There has never been anything that has made me smile so much as how much I love her and love being her step dad.
Nope. I’m childfree.
Absolutely. I’m also a single parent. However, my kids are big and independent. I’m not interested in replacing an absent parent or drama or starting over from littles. I have a career, I’m financially stable and content alone. So a partner would need to add to my life. I don’t think it’s impossible; I do think it’s unlikely. Kids themselves are not an outright no. Blended families can be beautiful.
No, I don’t want any children of my own, so that would be a complete dealbreaker
I did, she got married and is no longer single.
I’d say if you understand that if it gets serious, you will find yourself in a parental role of some kind (specific degree varies situation to situation), and accept that as a something you will step up to as necessary, go for it.
I was a dumb-as-rocks 20 year old when I met my ex-wife and her kid. Now my marriage is over, but I am that kid’s de facto dad and that’s pretty much a ‘for life’ thing. I don’t regret that and they are the most important human in my life, and I like to think I did a decent enough job helping raise them (no worse than my own young parents, at least). But if I had a time machine, I can’t say I wouldn’t go back and ask young Cracks if he really understands what he’s getting into.
That said, circumstances could have been such that the dynamic was different (older kid at time of arrival, more involved biodad, etc.), so YMMV. But regardless, people with kids are a package deal, and that needs to be seriously considered when dating/getting into a relationship. If that doesn’t line up with what you want out of life, there’s absolutely no shame in that.
I’m a single parent so would be hypocritical not to.
Then again my kids are in college, soon to be adults, I’m an older parent who doesn’t have the energy I did 20 years ago, and my focus right now is trying to make up for lost retirement savings so I can eventually retire. I do love kids but I’m not up for doing it all again
