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Cake day: February 13th, 2024

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  • As an adopted kid who was rescued from an abusive environment, and is now an adult, this is a pretty messed up and just mean in its generalization.

    If you are a potential parent, and your heart is big enough to let a kid in genuine distress and need be a part of your family and life, like i once was, i beg of you to truly consider the option

    Absolutly i had issues coming out of my original household and the foster system, and thankfully with the irrevocable love and skill my foster and then adoptive family put into me, i did change, i was able to heal, i was able to get better.

    To forsake all the children is bad, certainly i was difficult for my family, and maybe even more than the average biological kid (even so, ive seen some monsters that were bio-raised, im sure you have too), i came out alright, and i protect and have undying infinite love for my family, the family that adopted me and helped me when and where i needed it, and tolerated me with their love through my struggles

    If you are thinking of becoming a parent or adding to your family, you should at least consider adoption, at least seriously ask yourself the question and look up the realities and see if its right for you.

    And if, after looking it up, you understand that your heart is not the one that can take in an adopted kid, then you shouldnt adopt, and that is ok too. But if your heart is the kind that can, then please do not be discouraged, contact the foster care agency and tell them youre cautiously curious and you can figure it out further from there.


  • After i turned 30, i was rapidly confronted with consequences for my unhealthy lifestyle from my teens and twenties, you learn quickly that things need to change after glancing at death a couple times and at hospital stays.

    Thankfully i have the motivation to keep living, and that began to drive my actions after that

    Eat healthy less processed foods made in your kitchen and bought from farmers and markets

    Gym and active hobbies like hiking and dancing at least three times a week

    Hygene routines solidified, brushing teeth twice daily, non negotiable, thorough flossing and even tounge scrapping daily, fresh clean towel after the daily shower - its worth the extra laundry imo

    Skincare, especially daily sunscreen, non negotiable - face, neck, and exposed arms - brimmed hat when on a daily walk, upf 50+ clothing if outside for more than an hour doing chores of on hobbies - in the morning vit c on the face, and in the night a retinol (vit a derivitive)

    Hearing protection when at any music shows, wear them so you can keep hearing shows for the long term and not be that guy that says “WHAT?!” at every sentence. Genuinely, i prefer to go with good earplugs now than without

    Keeping hold of and scheduling meets with friends, family, and neighbors - as you get older it gets so easy to drift a part, we are all busy, and that 3 minutes spent texting to say “hey lets hang out, does thursday evening work?” makes good friends into best friends - lonely people die faster - be that family, friends, neighbors, and yourself

    As i get older and take care of myself, its easier to love myself, and thus, its easier to love other people and receive their love too. Get philosophical about it, it also takes care of you.








  • Know your neighbors, befriend your neighbors, when the collapse happens you’ll need food in your gardens sure, but you’ll need your neighbors to think you’re more than a spare pantry when their food gets low, even better if you like each other enough to form a real community thats more defendable and resilient than any single household could be




  • Fuck the commodification of culture.

    Fuck full time content creators.

    I don’t want people working full time on social networks. I don’t want to read your ad, your secret knowledge, your product placement, or sponsorship, or your oh so subtle pitch for VC funding. I’m certainly not going to give money.

    I want people who do their own thing in the real world, and as a hobby and show-and-tell, submit their work freely to the Internet to hone and expand their craft and field, and gain organic enrichment altruisticly.

    If you want to sell stuff and make money, make your own website and store. Not on our forum.

    Don’t pollute our forum. I want to be inspired, be in awe, be entertained, be informed, and to give back in my own way that continues this cycle and fuels the forum.

    We’ve fled so many greedy sites - fleeing this capitalistic parasite in hopes of finding honest discussion untainted by greed. I’m tired of fleeing.